My favorite book is God on a Harley by Joan Brady. In this fictional book, the God-like character, Joe, gives the main character, Christine, her own set of “commandments” to live by. They are:
- Do not build walls, for they are dangerous. Learn to transcend them.
- Live in the moment, for each one is precious and not to be squandered.
- Take care of yourself, first and foremost.
- Drop the ego. Be real. And watch happens.
- All things are possible all of the time.
- Maintain Universal Flow. When someone gives, it is an act of generosity to receive. For in the giving, there is something gained.
I believe these are great “commandments” for us to all live by. Here’s a little piece I have learned about each one.
- Tearing down walls is work that is too hard and can be re-traumatizing. Transcend them. It is easier and gets me where I want to be more quickly.
- Every moment really is precious, even the lazy Sunday afternoon moments when I rest on my couch.
- When I take care of myself, I am not the only one that benefits. My relationships, my clients, my co-workers and my family are cared for in the process.
- Being real is scary stuff. In the past year, life handed me a major crisis where all I could do to make it through was to be vulnerable and let my friends and family catch me. I have never experienced so much love. I learned that being real brings about being loved. In turn, I love them so much deeper too.
- I am the only one limiting myself. The first step is to get out of my own way.
- Most people want to give, not just to be kind, because it does their soul good to do so. Don’t block this. Step into it and see where it takes you and them.
Jenny Emerson, MMFT, LMT