Be Yourself, by Lynee Durham, LPC-MHSP

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde

I saw this recently on a car commercial, of all places. It struck me because it is such a simple truth. Simple truths are not always simple to live out though. What does it mean to “be yourself”? I think it means choosing that solid, confident, calm place inside us that is truly who we are; the place that knows why we are living and breathing on this planet, and our divine purpose for existing. It is that place inside us that feels like home.

Often, we feel we are no more than the expectations of others (parents, partners, friends, etc.) and the distorted beliefs we have held as a result. A huge weight is lifted when we let go of the need to live our lives based on the expectations of others. We realize we will do well to know who we truly are and live our lives from that place. No matter how hard we try, we aren’t able to please everyone. It is not our job to please everyone. Often our worry/anxiety is due to the war within ourselves; the battle between living up to what others expect and listening to who we truly are.

Personally, I have decided to notice my worry/anxiety during this Lenten season. I will use this time to be aware of it because I know there is a calm, peaceful place buried deeply underneath it. I choose to listen to that quiet, divine, knowing place a little more often. If I listen, I might just choose to be myself. After all, everyone else is already taken….