"As you begin to take action toward the fulfillment of your goals and dreams, you must realize that not every action will be perfect. Not every action will produce the desired result. Not every action will work. Making mistakes, getting it almost right, and experimenting to see what happens are all part of the process of eventually getting it right."
--Jack Canfield, is the best-selling author of Chicken Soup
I love this quote because it is a wonderful reminder that when I live my life and make choices, many of the outcomes are not what I think they “should” be. If, as I believe, the goal of the unconscious ego (middle chair survivor self) is to keep everything within the realm of what I already know, then I will continue to unconsciously recreate the dynamic that keeps me aligned with that reality. So of course when it doesn’t work out as I had planned, either I blame myself or someone else. I know the reality of my survivor ego (middle chair self) is not only that everything I do must be perfect, but I must be perfect too!
.Jack Canfield calls it “eventually getting it right” I call it aligning with my authentic, true self, conscious self (adult chair). Living in the present moment. When I have a chance to step back and move over to the adult, authentic part of me, I trust the “imperfections.” They are not only a part of the process of becoming conscious and aligning with who I truly am, they are a necessary part of this imperfectly perfect processes.
Suzy Newman, Integrative Therapist and Director of the School of Healing Arts