Planning and Re-Planning, by Susan Beyler

It took a while for my adult self to finally accept that there was only so much time available to accomplish things that needed being done.

Deciding what first priority was came easy – these were the things that clearly must to be done without delay.

Organizing the next ones on the list was a bigger challenge.  It soon was clear that there was a low possibility of knowing ‘the right answer’. 

Ok, so as long as I make a plan, I’m ok, right?

An even a bigger challenge was next – plans have a high possibility of change even if I don’t want them to change!

Next was the biggest challenge – to stop the self-talk about should’a, could’a – it would get tangled in my thinking of what to do next and slooooowed everything down.

Then, one day, in the middle of a tangle, I received help from an unusual source.  It showed up as a small voice in my ear (that we all would recognize) – the warm, fuzzy, a little bit sexy, slightly exasperated voice of Siri – ‘Recalculate’.

When we’re driving and have to ‘recalculate’ we never go backwards; we go down some side streets to get back on course.

Extending the metaphor, I found that these particular ‘side streets’ worked best for me to get me redirected with some clarity.

DO:

  • Drink a huge glass of water
  • If I am standing, sit down and relax my body; if I am sitting, stand up and move my body
  • Take 30 seconds to make the weirdest faces I can make
  • Sing 1 chorus of Happy Birthday or the ABC’s at full volume

DO NOT:

  • Touch anything electronic, including phone (I can change music only)
  • Eat anything except a full meal or one piece of fruit – let my body and the clock help me decide what to do
  • Try and figure out anything except the next thing to do; all will be revealed! 

Much easier! – Thanks to my voice-in-my-head - a GPS tool for confusion!

by Susan Beyler
Integrative Therapist, The Estuary
(615) 337-7017
susanbeyler@theestuary.org

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Susan Beyler

Susan graduated from the seven year program with The School of Self Healing Arts in 2001. She has been on staff at the school for 7 years and she has a private practice as a pastoral counselor with The Estuary. As a Montessori teacher for many years she has experience working with human inner growth and development. With her midwife training she is able to “birth” the spiritual growth so necessary to living a whole and meaningful life. She works with individuals accompanying them on their journey to a full relationship with themselves and their lives. Susan specializes in energy therapies with family of origin issues, addiction, depression, coupleship and trauma. She does hands on energy work with physical health issues and emotional balancing and strengthening. Drawing on her experience as a middle school teacher, she offers therapeutic workshops in subjects such as healthy boundaries, grief and loss, and relationship skills. She lived on The Farm (one of the oldest running intentional communities known for its midwifery, vegetarian cuisine, and alternative technology) for many years, and is a grandmother.