It took a while for my adult self to finally accept that there was only so much time available to accomplish things that needed being done.
Deciding what first priority was came easy – these were the things that clearly must to be done without delay.
Organizing the next ones on the list was a bigger challenge. It soon was clear that there was a low possibility of knowing ‘the right answer’.
Ok, so as long as I make a plan, I’m ok, right?
An even a bigger challenge was next – plans have a high possibility of change even if I don’t want them to change!
Next was the biggest challenge – to stop the self-talk about should’a, could’a – it would get tangled in my thinking of what to do next and slooooowed everything down.
Then, one day, in the middle of a tangle, I received help from an unusual source. It showed up as a small voice in my ear (that we all would recognize) – the warm, fuzzy, a little bit sexy, slightly exasperated voice of Siri – ‘Recalculate’.
When we’re driving and have to ‘recalculate’ we never go backwards; we go down some side streets to get back on course.
Extending the metaphor, I found that these particular ‘side streets’ worked best for me to get me redirected with some clarity.
- Drink a huge glass of water
- If I am standing, sit down and relax my body; if I am sitting, stand up and move my body
- Take 30 seconds to make the weirdest faces I can make
- Sing 1 chorus of Happy Birthday or the ABC’s at full volume
- Touch anything electronic, including phone (I can change music only)
- Eat anything except a full meal or one piece of fruit – let my body and the clock help me decide what to do
- Try and figure out anything except the next thing to do; all will be revealed!
Much easier! – Thanks to my voice-in-my-head - a GPS tool for confusion!