Control

A Seemingly Insignificant Lesson in Loving Fully, by Jacqueline DeSelms-Wolfe

A Seemingly Insignificant Lesson in Loving Fully, by Jacqueline DeSelms-Wolfe

It is not enough for me to believe in love. I want to love fully. I don’t know how to do this, but I am learning. I am learning in small, seemingly insignificant ways. 

Surrender, by Maureen Doyle, MAT

Surrender, by Maureen Doyle, MAT

Surrender is not a word that I like to use. It conjures up thoughts of giving in, someone else taking control, not winning. I am a strong person and I used to believe that to surrender was a sign of weakness and that was the last thing that I want to be seen as – weak.

Silly Me - Winning the Battle So I Can Lose the War, by Susan Beyler

Silly Me - Winning the Battle So I Can Lose the War, by Susan Beyler

I am really enjoying the 3rd quarter of my life – I have wisdom to draw on and I’m getting old enough to have learned not to take everything so personally.

Making Lemonade of Life’s Lemons, by Larkin Oates, MA

Making Lemonade of Life’s Lemons, by Larkin Oates, MA

As I travel through plush lemony woods, I trip on life’s lemons just like anyone else. Sometimes it is comically obvious I cannot see the citrus for the forest.

Recently, I have been so overwhelmed, it seems as if part of my brain is offline. I bump into furniture which I normally navigate unharmed, and I feel like I am functioning outside of the normal timeline. I strain to consider my choices in these lemony situations, and yearn to make the proverbial lemonade. However, my juice has no sweetener. I am worn to a nub, as is my partner. Although we are ‘cup half full’ people, our cup has a leak, and I feel our lives rapidly draining out of it.

My Graduation Vow, by Jenny Emerson, LMFT, LMT

My Graduation Vow, by Jenny Emerson, LMFT, LMT

Another School of Healing Arts graduation is upon us.  At each graduation, students recite their own personal vow that they developed from what they have learned at our school.  The following is staff member Jenny Emerson's vow from her graduation from our Kabbalah program in 2011.

"What I have learned in Kabbalah is that I am like a cake. You see, I start out in Asiyah with all my parts laid out on a counter like the ingredients of a cake. There is separateness here. The eggs, the flour, the water, etc. they don’t touch. Just like my sense of humor doesn’t want to be near my angry side. Here I struggle to manage and control myself. Make all my parts behave, only showing certain ones to certain people.

Acceptance in Waiting, by Andrea Pizzano, MMFT

Acceptance in Waiting, by Andrea Pizzano, MMFT

I recently thought about the difference between being stuck verses being in waiting when life presents us with challenges. There are many times I've felt stuck and alone with no choices.

Beneath the Addiction by Jenny Emerson, MMFT, LMT

It takes more than one time to really get it. But when you really get it, you realize this isn’t just about alcohol, drugs, food or sex. It’s about being addicted to our own selves: our attitudes, our grudges, our resentments, and our pain...